Couples Coaching
The struggles couples face
Communication.
It might just be the biggest challenge couples face — especially if, like me, you don’t see communication as just talking, but as everything that happens between you.
Because it also includes feeling your darker parts, owning and expressing your desires and boundaries.
It includes knowing when not to talk — but to look each other in the eyes, give a hug, or throw your partner on the bed.
Communication issues creep in on every level of a relationship.
From the practical — like arguing about the dishes or who’s picking up the kids — to the deeper frustrations of not being heard, not listening, not feeling understood.
And almost always, they lead to emotional insecurity, distance, and stuck intimacy.
The result? A sexual connection that becomes increasingly difficult.
Sexuality may be the most direct route to deep connection.
Beyond reproduction, it’s the core function of sex: opening and merging.
Which is also why it’s the place where all your relational pain tends to surface.
Sex can be a garden of Eden — or the emotional trash bin of your relationship.
The good news?
With the right guidance and intention, change can happen fast.
The Four Steps Of Intimacy:
- You get a proven framework to recognize, prevent, and break through common communication patterns.
- You learn to listen on deeper levels — beyond the words. That’s where we explore the underlying dynamics, conflicts, and desires.
- Then we go to the core: How is the energy flowing between you?
- And: How can we deepen both safety and sexuality?
This approach starts with recognizing your differences — the parts you once fell in love with, and the parts that now drive you mad.
With a background in journalism and communication, and years of training in tantra, breathwork, massage, polarity and men’s work, I bring together multiple worlds — so both partners feel seen, heard, and reflected.
I have extensive experience — both personal and professional — with monogamy, open relationships, polyamory, and everything in between.
Feeling a yes?
Choose a coaching option below and book an intake session.
Is your partner not ready (yet)? You’re welcome to start with 1-on-1 coaching.
The Darkness Within
Spark & Safety
| Dark.ness
2. a In behavior, un-integrated darkness: residing in the shadows or hidden from consciousness; dangerous, depraved, violent, deceitful
2. b In behavior, integrated darkness: directness, attractive, commanding, raw, unapologetic, powerful
3. Of primal origin: focused on basic biological human / animal urges
4. Mental darkness: depression or depressive feelings
5. In sexuality: taboo or (assumed) out of the ordinary desires, kinks and fetishes
‘Direct, empathetic and confronting. Sjoerd has the ability to see and show you where you’re stuck.’
Each session consists of an online Zoom call with meditation, practices and invaluable reflections. Afterwards you will receive an email with a short recap of the session and three different types of practices for you to work on (embodiment, shadow work and real life).
Practice
How much you get out of coaching is largely dependent on how much you put into it. Therefore you are invited in each session to be as open-minded, honest and transparent as you can.
Furthermore the three practices you receive after each session are of vital importance:
Choose Your Path
Choose one of the following packages. Every coaching journey is tailored to your needs.
The four steps of intimacy
€2500
Doe Het Samen
Vier Maanden
Zoom Calls Elke Twee Weken
(Betaling in termijnen mogelijk)
The Four Steps + one on one
€3500
Same But Tackling Your Issues Too
Six Months
Zoom Calls Every Two Weeks
(Payment Plan Available)