Unlock the power of your darkness
Freedom, strength, and love begin in the dark
Your darkness is one of the most potent sources within you. It’s deeply intertwined with your primal instincts — your hunger for food and sex, your will to survive (and if absolutely necessary, to kill), and your longing for deep connection with others.
Without the dark, there is no humanity.
And yet, many people try to shut this part of themselves down. The result? A culture where men are neutered and women oppressed. A world drowning in superficiality, desperately seeking external stimulation just to feel anything at all.
Afraid of the Dark
Your animal nature isn’t necessarily wild or destructive. But it does often feel edgy. And that makes it scary. In many cases, the behavior that springs from this darkness is taboo — or even outlawed.
If you’ve buried this part of yourself, you’ll feel it. In your relationships, your sex life, your work. You may be indecisive, vague, manipulative, or dishonest. You struggle to take the lead. You feel lacking in sexual tension, attraction, or performance.
What You Suppress Will Find a Way
What you push away doesn’t simply disappear. Suppressed darkness sneaks out the back door — in ways you can’t control, often hurting yourself and others. Sudden bursts of rage. Trouble respecting boundaries. Addictions. Cheating.
Your darkness doesn’t need suppression — it needs integration.ing – maar om integratie.
Coaching 1 on 1
Sjoerd Schotten
Sjoerd Schotten guides men, women, and couples who want to deepen their intimate or professional lives.
He specializes in making the hidden power of the subconscious — often buried in darkness — accessible and usable.
Sjoerd is a certified breathwork coach and holistic coach, with a background in tantra, taoist practice, polarity work, and men’s work. As a former journalist and communication strategist, he has a gift for translating complex esoteric insights into everyday language.
He offers coaching, workshops, retreats, and online courses. His unique approach focuses on integrating the shadow — the less visible aspects of the personality — through embodiment practices, breathwork, and shadow work.
Clients describe his work as deeply transformative: direct and confronting, yet always delivered with compassion. With a sharp eye for what others tend to avoid, Sjoerd brings the unseen into the light — and into action.
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Shadow Work
Carl Jung said every person’s personality has a “shadow” side. He didn’t mean the shadow is bad or evil, but it’s just a part of yourself you’d rather not show. Like…
The shadow is made up of feelings, thoughts and behaviors you have tucked away in your subconscious. They are there because you believe they are malicious, inappropriate or unsafe – like anger, jealousy, sadness or even creativity, playfulness or power.
Shadow work helps you to explore and integrate these hidden parts of yourself. This helps you to release their grip on you and to access the power within.
It can feel f*** good
There’s a portal in shadow work to more pleasure, happiness and success.
It is however the most confronting, painful, yet powerfully healing thing you can do for yourself.
The Secret to Lasting Growth
Every meaningful and sustainable transformation in your life starts with determining where you want to go. What do you want, or in other words what turns you on? As soon as you figure out what you want the next step, commitment, will be infinitely easier.
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